Leaving The Pity Pool: On Internalized Messages and Echo Chambers

When I was a teenager the mother of a close friend cautioned me about the dangers of swimming in pity pools. Even with that warning I made the mistake of entering one. Even worse was the fact that my pity pool was tied to my identity as an African-American woman. What should have served as a source of joy was too often treated as a burden, my race and gender linked in my mind to the notion of suffering. It would take the combination of a sobering critique from a friend and a TED Talk  to shake me out of my mental stagnation. In this vlog I discuss my uncomfortable realization that I had a self-defeating and negative mindset and how began the process of moving way from it: