Category Archives: Relationships

October 21

Parent Life: Out Of Sync

In the latest installment of Parent Life I discuss my reticence in filling my daughters’ head with the ideas I was given about marriage and motherhood, and how the disparity in what we teach girls and boys as children leads to problems in adulthood:

September 11

Just Like Music: “No Letting Go”, 2003

In the summer of 2002 the popularity of dancehall reggae in the US charts reached a new level. I welcomed the debut of songs like Sean Paul’s ‘Gimme The Light’ on BET, but as far as I was concerned my fellow Yankees were late to the party. Jamaica’s dancehall and roots reggae and the soca of […]

June 08

The Case of The ‘MBA’: Love, Dating and Infidelity in My Thirties

The year that I turned thirty I bemoaned my plight as a divorcee to a long-time friend. For me the age of thirty was the first in a list of magical ages beat into my head by family and society(thirty-five and forty-two are the others). When I was fifteen years old I had a clear […]

Love is Blind: Spring 2003

*And we now continue with our scheduled blog series* “I don’t even know you and I’d kill you myself You played with her like a doll and put her back on the shelf Wouldn’t let her go to school and better herself She had a baby by your ass and you ain’t giving no help…” […]

Love is Blind: 2002

It is April 2002 and I’m riding shotgun as Raquel drives down Broadway. I’m delighted to be in my girls’ presence again. Since meeting David a year ago I don’t see her as much. Raquel’s free time is devoted to him.  I do miss the fun times that we had when she was single: the […]

Love is Blind: The Next Episodes

In my Love is Blind series this far I’ve explored abusive situations in my relationships and those of my close friends. I’ve also shared my family background regarding the issue, to demonstrate the climate that I grew up in and how it shaped my perceptions of violence against women. The latter half of the series begins […]

Love is Blind: 1991

Like Lisa before her, Clara was young when she started dealing with my Uncle Philip. Clara was a senior in high school;my Uncle was in his late twenties by then. Clara was actually my uncle’s side chick, and when Lisa left him she was delighted to finally be the only woman in my Uncle’s life. […]

Love is Blind: 1985-1991

“What kind of love from a *****would black your eye? What kind of love from a ***** every night make you cry? What kind of love from a *****make you wish he would die? I mean shit he bought you things and gave you diamond rings But them things wasn’t worth none of the pain that […]