On moving to the acceptance stage after losing loved one, and how I’ve chosen to be inspired by the memories my late mother bequeathed to me.
Tag Archives: mourning
December
21
Breakup to Makeup: Friendship and Loss
posted by ExiledMind
It seemed that serious at the time. In May 2011 I fell out with someone who had been my ace since elementary school. It started out as an argument, and in and of itself that wasn’t a huge deal. In the two decades that we’d known each other we had disagreements. However conflict was rare […]
December
10
The Legacy of Those I’ve Lost
posted by ExiledMind
Five days ago we celebrated the life of my dear friend Tiffni. For hours I remained in the same spot I occupied during the memorial service, getting reacquainted with folks I had not seen in years. The room was filled with the playful cries and laughs of my late friends’ two little boys. They are […]
October
12
Just Like Music: “That’s The Way Of the World”, August 2005
posted by ExiledMind
In early August 2005 I sit in the front pew of my childhood church, hand in hand with my husband Ali. A frosted pink funeral program lays across my lap, a stark contrast to my flowing black dress. Years prior a member of the church said that believers should wear bright colors to funerals, that […]
July
30
Ten Years On
posted by ExiledMind
“I never dreamed you’d leave in summer.” The idea that we would lose you eighteen months after burying our matriarch, Grandma, was unfathomable to me. I just assumed there was some universal law about such things. When I got the call that Wednesday when you lost consciousness I didn’t think of death. I didn’t think […]
